How many out there have thought of going into an “adult” shop but have never done so out of embarrassment? “What if someone recognises me?” is a popular excuse or maybe you feel they are “dirty” places where perverts go to get their jollies. So what if someone recognises you. Throw it right at them before they can say anything or look at you in anyway. Say, “Yeah I was just in this sex shop here and boy do they have a good selection of butt plugs. I would have bought some only I already had this enormous vibrator and these crotchless panties.” Sex is nothing to be embarrassed about, sex is fun, and you’re supposed to have fun with it. If fun for you means body chocolate and leather chaps then you go for it, go all out for it.
One advantage of sex toys that you may not think of, other than all of the obvious ones, is that they can increase communication in your relationship. They are a good way of demonstrating how you want things done, and of showing the results of having it done properly. They open up the communication lines regarding sex and once you can talk freely about sex, really what can you not talk about? Virtually nothing is taboo. Your relationship becomes more open and honest and benefits all around. And you have all the fun in the world at the same time.
Another quite popular thing at the moment, and something that a lot of women are far more comfortable with rather than actually going into a sex shop, is Pleasure-Ware Parties. Think Tupperware parties but with dildos and lubricant instead of tubs and lids. These are organised by one adventurous/curious woman who invites as many friends as possible (15 is usually a good number) and they all get together one night for a good giggle and some elucidation. The friends need not all be women, couples are more than welcome but most parties are usually women only because that’s how women feel most comfortable. It’s when they feel freest to touch and examine the products to their hearts content and also, to ask the boldest, most direct questions. When hosting a Pleasure-Ware party it is important to let people know what to expect, the party must be consensual for all concerned. A large table is needed to display all of the products. Alternatively you need a lot of putting place. There are a lot of products that need to be displayed.
Some recurring questions, usually to do with vibrators, are regarding size and design. The key recommendations here are start small and start simple and when you are used to these, move up. If you have a boyfriend/husband you may use him as a size reference. It is also recommended that you always use lubricant; it makes everything easier and more fun all round. Do not forget to clean your toys after use. This is very important. It is important because it is basic hygiene and we all love hygiene, and it is important because cleaning your toys will help them to last longer.
After all the giggling and laughing and examining and questioning and explaining have been done, there is an opportunity for everyone who is interested to place orders for their favoured items.
The world of sex is far more mainstream now than it has ever been before. It is now welcomed into the living rooms of housewives and business executives with ease and anticipation. If it can be so easily welcomed into our homes, surely it is no stretch for us to be able to walk towards it and enter sex shops with equal equanimity? Embrace the true sexual revolution. Do not be embarrassed about the leather harness or edible undies that you buy. People envy those who are sexually free. Its time you took those steps and liberated yourself.
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